FLASHBACK: My Hardest Advice for Young Leaders

Ron Edmondson | September 12, 2014

When our oldest son, Jeremy, was in high school, he was on the wrestling team. It was intense training. I loved the discipline and confidence it gave him, and I loved the wrestling matches.

When Jeremy would come home from a hard day of practice, he wanted to bring what he learned in training into our family time. I had always enjoyed wrestling with my boys, but now he wanted to take our play time to a whole new level. We would start wrestling in the “assumed position” he had been taught, but then I would use my extra 70 pounds as an advantage and quickly pin him to the ground. He would often yell, “No, you’re doing it wrong! That’s not the rules!”

To which I would always reply, “No buddy, you’re on my turf now, you play by my rules…and I say there are no rules.”

And in that illustration lies a principle younger leaders need to learn as they enter the field of leadership.

Here’s the principle:

If you’re gonna play with the big boys…you gotta bring your big boy game.

(The gender is for illustration, not for exclusivity. This applies to girls, too!)

Many entering the field of leadership, today, have lived in a generation where they were given much with few demands on them personally. Of course, there are exceptions, but this is often true. By the way, it was truer for my generation than for my father’s generation. Because of this, I often see young leaders enter the field of leadership these days with unrealistic expectations. They sometimes expect to receive equal reward without paying their equal dues.

What disturbs me most, however, are young leaders who fail to live up to their full potential by:

  • Making excuses for poor performance rather than attempting to improve
  • Pretending to have answers to problems they’ve never experienced
  • Refusing to learn from other people…especially older people
  • Demanding more than they are willing to give
  • Expecting a reward they haven’t yet earned
  • Depending on step-by-step instructions instead of learning their way
  • Refuting another generation for content when technique is the real difference

Young leaders, be patient, teachable, humble, grateful, and moldable as you enter positions of authority, and as you are given responsibility. Don’t fail to learn all you can from those who went before you or to grow from your mistakes. Expect to work hard to achieve the things you want from life, and realize things may not always be as you would want them to be. There are a few stories of people who stumbled into instant success, but those are rare.

Over time, as you are diligent, you will likely change some of the rules. I hope you do. Some of the rules of my generation need changing. I’m not afraid for you to teach this old dog new tricks. I want to learn from you. I want you to have responsibility and authority. I want you to be fully rewarded and recognized for your contribution to society. I also want you to realize, however, that most things of lasting value take time and discipline to achieve.

The “big boy” world can be tough, but you can make a huge contribution if you are willing to pay the price.

By the way, I’ve given this same advice to my sons as they have entered adulthood and the workplace.

Ron Edmondson is a husband and father with over 30 of leadership experience in ministry and as a self-employed business owner. To read more of his daily leadership writings check out Ron's website. You can also follow Ron on Twitter.

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